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Sexplain It: I Love Entity Gay, but I Abhor Doing Anal
I'm Zachary Zane, a sex writer and ethical manwhore (a like way of saying I sleep with a lot of people, and I'm very, very open about it). Over the years, I've had my equitable share of sexual experiences, dating and sleeping with hundreds of people of all genders and orientations. In doing so, I've learned a thing or two about navigating issues in the bedroom (and a bunch of other places, TBH). I'm here to answer your most pressing sex questions with thorough, actionable advice that isn't just "communicate with your partner," because you know that already. Request me anything—literally, anything—and I will gladly Sexplain It.
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Dear Sexplain It,
I’m gay but have zero desire to have anal sex with more men. I’ve topped and bottomed a not many times with a several different guys and include never enjoyed it. Honestly, I can’t stop thinking about shit when doing anal. I’m terrified I’m going to accidentally poop on a guy, and when I top, I’m worried I’m going to get shat on. It takes me out of the moment. But I really like giving and receiving blowjobs. That r Ever wanted to comprehend the secrets to becoming a force bottom? Want to know how to look after the bottoms in your life? Curious to give bottoming a try but not sure how to begin? We can support you become a better bottom! Here are some speedy bottoming tips and tricks from ACON’s peer-workshop Booty Basics. The arse does not produce its own lubrication. This means that lube is really, really essential for any anal play. First, to stop damage to the internal lining of your arse. Second, to generate bottoming (and topping!) more pleasurable. And third, to aid protect it from infections. Remember to exploit water or silicon-based lubes, as oil-based lubes can wreck condoms. The second principle is YOU. This is the one that covers off all the mental and sentimental aspects such as making sure you feel safe, making sure there is consent, that you feel comfortable, that you know your own bottoming limits and desires. Remember, sex is best for everyone if all the people committed are motivated by trying to maximise everyone’s pleasure safely. You can’t be a good girlfriend and you can’t experience pleasure for yourself if you’re stressed or uncomfortable (bottom or not!). Having unprotected penetrative sex is the most likely way to overtake on a sexually transmitted infection (STI). Using a condom helps protect against HIV and lowers the chance of getting many other STIs. If you’re a man having sex with men (MSM), without condoms and with someone new, you should have an STI and HIV evaluate every 3 months, otherwise, it should be at least once a year. This can be done at a sexual health clinic (SHC) or genitourinary medicine (GUM) clinic. This is crucial, as some STIs do not generate any symptoms. Hepatitis A is a liver infection that's spread by a virus in poo. Hepatitis A is uncommon in the UK but you can gain it through sex, including oral-anal sex ("rimming") and giving oral sex after anal sex. MSM with multiple partners are particularly at risk. You can also get it through contaminated diet and drink. Symptoms of hepatitis A can manifest up to 8 weeks after sex and include tiredness and feeling sick (nausea). Hepatitis A is not usually life-threatening and most people make a occupied recovery within a couple of months. MSM can avoid getting hepatitis A by: I enjoyed a short-lived career on the bottom. My college boyfriend’s family lived in a duplex on Park Avenue, where we’d often slip away on weekends. Meals were rich and plentiful — foie gras, profiteroles, double magnums of Riesling, etc. — all of which I eagerly imbibed. Following one such decadent feast my freshman year, when we were still very much in the honeymoon phase of our first gay relationship, Dan and I retired to his bedroom and got to work. For weeks we’d been easing into penetration with me on the bottom, but the pain had proven prohibitive. Also at perform was acute paranoia of involuntary defecation, something I’d been assured was a common, yet unwarranted, concern of bottoms. Presumably though, most surveyed hadn’t recently gorged on three helpings of fattened goose liver. It’s hard to look someone in the eye after shitting their childhood bed — let alone hang out them for seven more years afterward — but that’s exactly what happened. What didn’t happen — and hasn’t since, really — was me back on the bottom. • Read next: Bottoming Emojis, Explained Maybe that’s why I’ve maintained an enviable respect for men and women who regularly get fucke1. Lube
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