Gay and in denial
Do I have HOCD or am I in denial?
Thanks for sharing your questions and concerns. I’m sorry to perceive you are struggling.
First you mentioned about having HOCD-which are undesirable, intrusive thoughts that you might want to be in a bond with a person of the matching sex, despite organism straight. From your paragraph, I grasp that you determine as a female with a need to have a boyfriend. However, intrusive thoughts that you may be queer enter your idea stream. These intrusive thoughts also bring about distress. There are days that you cope well with the intrusive thoughts and there are days that the thoughts are more difficult to administer. I’m curious to hear on the better days:
- What undertake you do to cope?
- How can you use these skills to bridge through the less positive days?
It is also important to message that thoughts are just thoughts, it does not directly translate to deed. Thoughts and behavior are separate things. Just because you may have certain thoughts, that does not necessarily intend that you would act out those thoughts. With these intrusive thoughts, I wonder how accomplish you tolerate the distress? What are some self-soothing activities you engage in? Mindfulness practic
Homophobes Might Be Concealed Homosexuals
Homophobes should evaluate a little self-reflection, suggests a modern study finding those individuals who are most hostile toward gays and contain strong anti-gay views may themselves contain same-sex desires, albeit undercover ones.
The prejudice of homophobia may also stem from authoritarian parents, particularly those with homophobic views as successfully, the researchers added.
"This study shows that if you are feeling that courteous of visceral reaction to an out-group, ask yourself, 'Why?'" co-author Richard Ryan, a professor of psychology at the University of Rochester, said in a statement. "Those intense emotions should aid as a summon to self-reflection."
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The research, published in the April 2012 issue of the Journal of Individuality and Social Psychology, reveals the nuances of prejudices appreciate homophobia, which can ultimately have dire consequences. [The 10 Most Destru
(CBS News) Do homophobic people actually fear their own unconscious feelings? A new study suggests that people who repress their retain sexual attraction to the matching sex are more likely to express hostility towards gays.
"In many cases these are people who are at war with themselves and they are turning this internal conflict outward," study co-author Dr. Richard Ryan, professor of psychology at the University of Rochester, said in a university written statement.
In four separate experiments conducted in the U.S. and in Germany, each involving an average of 160 college students, researchers attempted to measure any differences between what people utter about their sexual orientation and how they actually react. Their findings are published in the April issue of the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.
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For one experiment, researchers used synonyms and picture tests to subliminally prime participants with either the word "me" or "others," and then asking them to place the words and images into "gay" or "straight" categories. A second experiment had p
Internalised homophobia and oppression happens to gay, lesbian and bisexual people, and even heterosexuals, who have learned and been taught that heterosexuality is the norm and “correct way to be”. Hearing and seeing negative depictions of LGB people can lead us to internalise, or accept in, these negative messages. Some LGB people undergo from mental distress as a result.
A general feeling of personal worth and also a positive view of your sexual orientation are critical for your mental health. You, love many lesbian, gay and bisexual people, may own hidden your sexual orientation for a long day. Research carried out in Northern Ireland into the needs of young LGBT people in 2003 revealed that the average age for men to realise their sexual orientation was 12, yet the average age they actually confided in someone was 17. It is during these formative years when people are coming to know and acknowledge their sexual orientation that internalised homophobia can really affect a person.
Internalised homophobia manifests itself in varying ways that can be linked to mental health. Examples include:
01. Denial of your sexual orientation to yourself and others.
02. Attempts to a