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Boygenius Make Me Experience Like a Gender non-conforming Teen Again
As a teen girl in the early aughts in Los Angeles, I did what I was supposed to do: attach pictures of Josh Hartnett on my walls and sob in the theater while Ryan Gosling kissed Rachel McAdams in the rain. I could act the part without even realizing I was acting, but I couldn’t muster the bone-deep cravings my friends seemed to have, especially when it came to boys in bands. I’ll never forget my ally practically rending her garments over the All-American Rejects before they made it big, saying she would desperately long for them between tiny venue shows and dream about them at night. That desperate, teen obsession bordering on madness for boys with guitars—the forums, LiveJournal communities, memorizing the lyrics, writing them on binders, knowing every fact that ever exists—it didn’t do it for me.
That is, until a new put of “boys in the band” came around in the form of Julien Baker, Lucy Dacus, and Phoebe Bridgers. The shape of my obsession with supergroup boygenius—which started with the 2018 EP but reached a fever pitch when their album, the record, dropped in March—is embarrassing, maniacal, and distinctly teenage.
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'As a lesbian, I feel so nice here': How Boygenius made a lgbtq+ women's haven in Halifax
In the far corner of the Piece Hall, in the exact identify a group of teenage Boygenius fans are milling, there usually sits a statue of the first modern sapphic. Anne Lister was born here, in Halifax, West Yorkshire, nearly 250 years ago. She conducted wild, passionate affairs with women, and wrote about them in her diaries with such unprecedented candour that when they were first discovered, people consideration they were a hoax. They weren’t. She really was that horny.
I’m not sure if Boygenius, the all-American, all-queer supergroup comprising Phoebe Bridgers, Lucy Dacus and Julien Baker, knew any of this when they added Halifax to their world tour. But it feels wonderfully apt that they are here.
“It’s such a charming place in queer woman British history,” says 20-year-old Alice, who’s travelled here from Chester to notice her favourite band. “I’m glad they came to the North instead of just London. You walk in, everyone’s wearing waistcoats, it’s a lovely atmosphere.” She loves the band because “as queer people, they’re so public and so open about it. A lot of gay harmony culture is cultivated
I have been in therapy for the past six years and been out as gay for almost 12. In a recent conversation with my therapist, who in a dramatic turn of events is named Destiny, I admitted something I hadn’t realized: Maybe the reason I struggle so much with dating is because I am in some ways still ashamed of my lesbianism. I grew up Catholic, in the Missouri suburbs. My family was never anti-gay, but they weren’t the biggest fans of my coming out either. I came into my adolescence in the early 2010s, when shows like Glee were transforming the conversation about male lover representation, and while that made me luckier than queer folk who’d appear before me, there was still a lack in my personal repertoire for lesbian/sapphic understanding. Being a lesbian in a patriarchal society is a particular kind of loneliness. In a culture that focuses so much of its attention on appeasing and elevating heterosexuality and maleness, centering lesbianism is a careful, difficult choice. And don’t get me wrong: I wouldn’t change this aspect of me for the world. I reflect my queerness has opened me to the most beautiful world of people and opportunities. But that doesn’t mean being a lesbian cannot be extremel
In my last blog post I talked about how I wanted to have a post consecrated to boygenius and my dense, deep love for them. This is that post.
If you are unaware, boygenius (yes in lowercase letters) is a band, specifically a supergroup, made up of three queer women named Julien Baker, Phoebe Bridgers, and Lucy Dacus. They all had achieving solo careers before they teamed up in 2018, forming a close friendship and later a band. They released their EP, boygenius, in 2018 and haven’t released anything else together until now. They got back together when the pandemic started, initiated by Phoebe Bridgers, just weeks after she released her album, Punisher.
Their album, the record, was released March 31st 2023 and contains songs about love, friendship, religion, and heartbreak.
But what’s so great about them that I need to write a whole blog post on it?
First of all, they’re an all homosexual band. We often see bands made up of boys who are usually straight white men. And, when we do receive girl groups, they’re expected to sing about heartbreak and be everything society tells women they should be. boygenius not only breaks the expected girl collective trope, but they do